\nSome time ago, I observed how people love to be match makers and
\neven match preventers. And I have wondered of the validity of such,
\nbefore the eyes of God.\n<\/p>\n
\nObjections and refusals are often seen as "shyness" by match makers, hence their persistence.\n<\/p>\n
\nThe
\nWestern culture has this practice of boyfriend girlfriend, as opposed
\nto arranged marriage. Freedom, open-mindedness, are the mottos of the
\nformer. I believe, the concept of girlfriend boyfriend held by the West
\nis more of an excuse for adultery. A "virtual" temptation before the
\nactual temptation, thereby assuming the "virtual sin" to be irrelevant
\nbefore God. Consequently, breakups are normal, divorces are a habit.\n<\/p>\n
\nI am obliged to make such judgment when match makers are pressing upon me where match preventers had thought they succeeded.\n<\/p>\n
\nIn the context of Christianity, a married life and a celibate life are both precious before God.\n<\/p>\n
\nThis
\nis not so for many "Christian" match makers. They are able to speak
\notherwise, but perhaps the culture here in the West has swayed their
\nhearts to another belief.\n<\/p>\n
\nHere are their assumptions and reasons and my reactions:\n<\/p>\n
\n1. "Emotional people should get married".
\nReason: (1Corinthians 7:9), such men are very in touch with their feminine sides, etc.
\nReply:
\nThat is to say that there are such group as "non"-emotional people:
\n"eunuchs" Matthew 19:12, who are "qualified" to lead a celibate life.
\nBut becareful, for one is in danger of despising one of God's most
\nbeautiful creations - the sanctity of emotions. A celibate life is a
\ngiving up, just as the Son gave up His life for the Church. Just as
\nPaul gave up having a wife (1 Corinthians 9:5) for the urgency of the
\nGospel. Giving up is not the same as "born without such
\ndesire\/desireless" which is a blasphemy despite how one wishes to prove
\nit medically because the same emotion applies and is required to the
\nrelationship with God (1 Corinthians 7:32-33). Those who think they are
\n"emotionless" when it comes to that which is between man and woman are
\ncovering their pride with a hypocritical mask of false piety.\n<\/p>\n
\n2. "You are old enough to have girlfriend, to get married".
\nReason: Time to have a family, have children, a house and a car, perfect achievement in life.
\nReply: Girlfriends are for lonely people. For those who have no God, even if they think they do. What have I to do with you?\n<\/p>\n
\n3. "Getting married is more normal, this girl? that girl? how about her?".
\nReason: Boldly live out your desires.
\nReply:
\n(From a Pauline preacher standpoint, I believe this rebuke can even and
\nSHOULD be directed to pastors-Had the man of God replied such to the old prophet in 1Kings 13, I believe he would have found favors in God's eyes instead of a lion) Satan! Get thee behind me! (Spoken firmly, calmly, soberly)\n<\/p>\n
\nSince
\nsome of the despicable assumptions above can be relativistic, one must
\ntherefore be certain of one's devotion to Christ. Not choosing between
\nthat which is better, but that which is given. For the glory of God, of
\nChrist, my Lord and Savior.\n<\/p>\n
\nAmen.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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