In regards to priesthood of man, I dare not speak in other terms lest I commit blasphemy, the attractiveness of a Christian is drawn by the fear of God he/she instills in others.
When people love this Christian, do they fear God and give more reverence toward God?
Do people come near this Christian because they know this person is so connected to God that if he/she receives them, they are assured of their peace with God.
Hence, the attractiveness of a Christian is not due to the 'niceness' or E.Q. or social skill. Because when one brings the reverence of God with him/her, he/she automatically has all of the above.
Due to the Devil's investment in the church, there are those, when examined thoroughly, who put social decorum above God for the equivalence of the two is an impossibility, versus those who has God first in their priority. These two groups are always at war and the byproducts of the war are the extremists.
In order to win this war, one of the two groups would have to be wrong and the other right and wish to invite the wrong to the side of right.
As long as there are two rights, the war goes on.