First they ask me to do certain services for the church, in essence, I was being asked and I agreed, thus connoting my "volunteerism", but ultimate it was a favor for them; A duty for God, but a favor for them nonetheless. For they dare not argue otherwise, without crossing the border between volunteerism and obedience, since the tool that they use, is volunteerism.
So, it is their folly for them to even suggest a threat to me, that they would refuse my certain request, if I have any, should I not do certain things their way. It is the stupidest suggestion, since they (Thus far, I have only met two of such imbeciles both of which are female in the leadership) would assume that I would ever require favor from them, not to mention all I have done was favors for them. Should they dare to think their "request of favor" from me is their way of commanding or encouraging people to serve God and Church, then it would do harm only on them and not me, whether I agreed or not to fulfil their request, because it reveals their dishonesty and wickedness. Asking a favor from someone and urging someone to serve are very very different matter. One should not mix them. It may pass the moral test of say...the Chinese culture, but it is a ticket to perdition in God's eyes.
Secondly, there is also this notion, that if they ask me to do certain service, and I refuse, then it gives them the right to accuse me of not caring. But then I shall ask: When the parents give away their children to someone as caretaker, and if he refused to accept this in the first place, should the parents say to this man - "Oh you irresponsible and uncaring parent". Judge not, lest ye be judged.
Ultimately, the question lies in whether or not it is a mutual agreement that we serve God with the same vision. It is a great sin for a wrong assumption in this case. But on the flip side, it is also not right to be skeptical of others all the time. So in this, I have greatly admired my mentor Rev. Dr. Stephen Tong.