I noted before, on how many Christians today think they are more loving than God.
Here is a second examination, the love test:
Can one's love for God be tested at all?
Logically, yes.
Assuming all have confirmed they love God MOST.
Let's observe 2 Christians:
1. Love God, love people. When friends despise God but do not despise one, one is okay with it, after giving a quick rebuke and a sorrowful gesture to the offenders. When friends despise God AND despise one, one breaks contact with offenders. When friends despise not God BUT despise one, one breaks contact as well.
2. Love God, love people. When friends despise God but do not despise one, one is not okay with it and carefully design a reconciliation as an option, but an option indeed. When friends despise God AND despise one, same thing, while checking to make oneself blameless. When friends despise not God BUT despise one, one does not break contact but struggle to fellowship with friends before one God.
Base on the reactions to men and to God, a simple table of friendship probability can be drawn for each candidate with fields "despise God" & "Not despise God" against "despise friend" & "not despise friend". And we can easily tell, whose choice is based regardless of friendship; whose choice is based regardless of people's attitudes toward God.
I seek fellowship with Case 2, not Case 1.