After some interesting exchanges on FB, I would have added another defense against the point that homosexuality abhorrence has to be homophobic:
I abhor divorces, that does not necessary make me divorcee-phobic.
I abhor recreational boyfriend/girlfriend relationships: That does not make me recreational couple phobic.
It is also interesting that they attacked my view on homophilia & homophobia; but not xenophilia & xenophobia.
Good thing we ended the discussion rather peacefully when I suggested the real use of acceptance, which was a word that's been used to accuse me of being homophobic, is to accept each other's disagreement. (From "agree to disagree").
After some thoughts, I would conclude that one can only truly accept something when one fully grasp what that is. Even though I abhor homosexuality, I have no problem accepting homosexuals, because I understood why I am against homosexuality and thus my acceptance comes from love, understanding and honesty. However, if one does not know why or what one accepts something, simply because it seems nice, then one does not truly accept it or at most not being honest about one's acceptance, for the coming of understanding might sway one's acceptance.
Zacharias' sanctity of human sexuality is quite crucial in such debate.
On account of nature, I would call it faulty the statement "Some people are born homosexual" as much as "Some people are born heterosexual", so is "Some people are born antisexual, etc.". If this stand is agreed, one could evangelize by means of presuppositional apologetics.
I shall add:
To say that "one is born heterosexual or homosexual or anti-sexual or non-sexual or bi-sexual or ambi-sexual or etc." is by itself an erroneous statement and an excuse for certain agenda.
You are born with not those, but certain gender with their functions. It is wise to curb your desire wisely with respect to yourself, your family, your community and last but not least, the one who gives you all these.
A despicable kind of neutral ground which some calls cowardly, I would add "wicked" to it, is the kind that when confronting two opposing extremes, one accepts both views or does not want to say anything to show agreement or disagreement. This debate would hardly be that case, when I am confronting the exteremes homophilia vs. homopobhia, for I spoke up and offered a different solution to that without supporting either side.