撒娇是否罪过?

绝对是罪,但我不太强烈追踪。

这是现代华人文化所提倡的不良习惯。張逸萍(Lois Chan) 曾对竹君,邱清泰夫妇认为撒娇是属灵生命操练的实际,作出批评 (我将其作文在comment区重贴,以免它网页被狗)。撒娇不是圣经所讲的温柔

我也在以后有机会问唐崇荣的列题页,加了此问题。但Google搜查上,唐崇荣几乎每题到“撒娇”这词,都是在罪的范围。如:不让孩子随便哭,免得撒娇,有人误解约翰在主怀里撒娇,不当主为王而撒娇,等。

除了一次,唐崇荣希伯来书第127讲 (=第151录影片):约翰是门徒中间最年轻的,他很怕跟耶稣疏远一点,就有一些话听不见了,所以他亲近耶稣到一个地步,有时候把他的头放在他的怀里,不是只有小小的孩子,还五、六岁的时候,有时候跑到妈妈怀抱中间撒娇吗?约翰是撒娇的孩子。一个在主面前常常撒娇,常常愿意最亲近,细心听每一个细节,每一个最小的声音的人,这些人很容易明白上帝的旨意。(不知唐崇荣在此用词不当,不然不会在别处说这同样情况是他人误解)。

英文没有一词可翻成撒娇。但最靠近的意思是:Behave like a spoiled child。但因此翻不够准确,有人将这词在英文归三划:1. Whiny, 2. Lovey-Dovey, 3. Being Cute.

撒娇出自明张四维《双烈记·引狎》:“专会撒娇使性,那管我债重家倾。” 那是明朝时代 (1368年―1644年)。我想这因此为亚洲独特风格,起点是负面的。但今有时则被视为可爱美丽。常常在漫画里有特意表答方式。也许因此也吸引西方年轻一代,特别是那些漫画族。

虽然 張逸萍大大指责对撒娇视为属灵操练的看法,为耍手段以争取美德的虚诈,但她错在把撒娇结论为不是罪过。可能她把撒娇混渣与罗曼蒂克,而罗曼蒂克没有得罪神。所以,在Lovey-Dovey, 我不用撒娇,因为他不一定是撒娇,则用谈恋爱。撒娇还是有点幼稚,虚假,自私。也许这是为什么亚洲人家庭文化通常在成熟,慷慨事上,比不上西方人。

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Thoughts

Self made millionaire Elizabeth Holmes is going to be in a movie I'll try to watch. The miniseries is called The Dropout, since this fraud had only graduated high school, then dropped out of Stanford, claiming to start a company Theranos that do blood testing better than anyone else. The interesting part, is that she was able to fool the world, Forbes, for a while. Pyramid scheme is one thing and very common, but this is a whole other level.

Tim Keller on Stephen Colbert's response to Dua Lipa, so did Alex:

I'll give my take first on Colbert, and then a brief analysis on Keller and Alex, who only both proved my criticism of them before.

The question is basically asking: Do you think your work (comedy) contradicts (overlaps) with your faith (Christianity/Catholicism)? If they do, which one wins out?

Had Colbert exercised his answer to his ability in humility, he should have stopped at "faith wins out in the end". Which basically gave the answer: Yes, and yes. His quirky joke like "I hope Jesus has a sense of humor" should do just fine as a finale to the question. But he had to go out of his humility to add further explanation to justify himself by saying "But I would say this..." Thus voiding his initial answer, for listeners who are unbias and clear minded. So his first answer was what he thought to be the textbook answer for a Christian/Catholic, and his second answer is his real answer, which is to justify himself but essentially evading the question with rap and quotes about the good things of laughter and love, so that the majority audience would not be smart enough to figure out his motive. He failed in Matthew 5:37, let your yes be yes, and no be no, anything beyond that is of evil.

So my reaction is not about how Colbert fail in bringing out the Gospel, or being a Christian witness, that's what the fundamentalists do, but that he failed in answering the question.

Now, let's look at Keller's case:

This is a skillful example of how to be a Christian in the public square. It is a form of witness that culture can handle. We should desire to have more Christians in these spaces and give them grace as they operate. Please do not make the error: if you cite person X at all you must answer for everything person X ever did or said. That is not fair. I am merely saying, this is a winsome way to answer this question that we should desire to emulate.

And here's his follow up to his commentators:

The recent post I made about Stephen Colbert's partial answer about his faith and the ensuing comments has shown me American Christians still have a long way to go on understanding Col 4:5-6, how to be "wise in the ways you act towards outsiders?" This is called contextualization. What is contextualization? It’s adapting your message to be understandable and compelling to particular hearers without compromising the truth in any way.Why contextualize? First, because everyone already does it. As soon as you choose a language to speak in, and vocabulary, and illustrations, and arguments, you are adapting to some human hearers more than others. If you don’t become conscious of how you are contextualizing—which is inevitable--you won’t contextualize well. Second, because Paul contextualizes in his speeches. Cf. how he presents to Bible believers in Acts 13, blue-collar pagans in Acts 14, educated pagans in Acts 17. Third, because the Biblical writers contextualized. See John’s use of Greek philosophy’s “Logos” in John 1; see the use of the Hittite suzerain treaty form in the book of Deuteronomy; see Paul’s contextualization of the gospel to Greek and Jewish cultural narratives in 1 Cor 1:22-24.Fourth, because Paul calls us to contextualization without compromise in 1 Cor 9:19-23. Fifth, because the incarnation itself was a kind of contextualizing so we could understand—the Word made flesh. Sixth, keep in mind you can’t and shouldn’t say everything every time when bearing a public witness to your faith. In Acts 17 Paul spoke of judgment but not of the cross or of how to get forgiveness. So it wasn’t a full gospel presentation. It was laying a foundation for talking to people later. Unless Christians are completely going to pull themselves out of the public square we will need to contextualize. Let's do so well.

Here's his reaction to comments.

My response to his first comment was, I just didn't know who he was referring to at first: Dua Lipa or Colbert? Sometimes as Christians, we can certainly do contextualization with questions, as Dua Lipa did. As for Colbert, other than saying that he's Christian, he evaded the question, if that's a winsome approach, then I can relate to some controversial interview Keller did in the past, starting with homosexual marriage, etc.

On Alex's case:

This is not surprising. Alex is usually caught in the confusion of fundamentalism and reformed. He was influenced more by the non-fundamentalists. But because he lacks nor cares for evangelical or person to person ministries where sacrifice is demanded, he could only cross that relationship line by extrapolation, and thus, using fundamentalist logic. By doing so, he had to constantly risk falsely accusing others of their comments. On Colbert's case, Alex differs from Keller slightly because of their ministries in life. Keller tries to encourage a way of evangelizing without scaring people off; Alex's is more about if there's a slightest right in certain things, JUSTIFY it with TNT! Both actually have problems, but I would say Keller's obviously on a better ground in this than Alex.

To do Colbert justice, his interview with Bill Maher was better:

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Penang Lor Mee Recipe

This should be authentic enough. I shall try this soon:

Penang Lor / Loh Mee Recipe (Braised Noodles)

From author:

The main draw of Lor Mee is its thick and flavorsome broth which is ladled onto yellow noodles and topped with braised meat and egg. The chili and garlic concoction gives it that extra punch to make this a comforting and satisfying dish. Try making this at home especially now with the FMCO lockdown in place. Stay safe and take care!

Gravy
1.8 litre chicken stock
1 thumb size ginger
1 head garlic
1 star anise
2 tbsp brown sugar (adjust to taste)
1 tsp salt (adjust to taste)
1 tbsp 5 spice powder
1 tbsp sesame oil
2 tbsp light soy sauce
6 tbsp dark soy sauce
3 shake white pepper
6 tbsp corn flour mixed with water
2 eggs beaten

Ingredients
500g pork belly, lean meat
2 hard-boiled eggs
6 shiitake mushroom
1 fish cake
10 fish ball
200g yellow noodles
200g vermicelli
100g bean sprouts

Condiments
200g Chili boh sauté with 3tbsp oil
1 head garlic mixed 3tbsp white vinegar, 2 tsp sugar

Garnish
Coriander, chopped

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Moved from MetroPCS (Metro by T-Mobile) to T-Mobile

A couple of weeks ago, we finally did it. Couldn't stand the poor signal with Metro after they made the alleged upgrade in my area, and I lost signal all the time for more than two weeks. Their tech support was no help. I even wasted time and money ordering extra Metro sim card just to test it.

With T-Mobile Magenta Max $140/month (highest cost plan) we get buy two lines and get 1 free line, plus free Netflix Standard subscription (2 screens, HD quality), a $15/month value. Totaling around $170 including my discounted Samsung Galaxy S21 Ultra 126GB phone upgrade from S8 plus trade in. I also get 2 free Samsung Galaxy A32 5G phones. All of them are not unlocked, so have to wait for the 2 year contract to end. And they had to charge tax on all of them at full retail price.

Now this 5G phone definitely is much better. Faster, better signal, though South Amboy has always seen less coverage than other places. Hopefully this will improve in the future with the value of this city apparently going up.

Other cool perks with Magenta Max is free international calling and data as well as in flight free calling, etc.

Bye bye Metro, it's been a long time, since 2017 if not earlier, but you've forced my hand, the $110/month deal doesn't work for us anymore.

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Station Bay

So I got a chance (by appointment) to visit the finally ready South Amboy Station Bay Apartment complex, after seeing it started construction by the train station a couple of years ago or so. I have video and documents collected in my drive.

It's more luxurious than I thought. Rent only. Ranges from $1.9k to $3k, from Studio 500 sqft to 2 bedrooms 2 baths 1.5k sqft. It basically has everything, shared gym, pool, theater, etc. Although it's not going to have a direct view at the ocean as another complex by another company will obstruct the view between this one and the beach. It's just very convenient for train as well as the allegedly coming ferry port.

Hopefully this only means good for our neighborhood, i.e. higher land value. I forgot to ask about the security of the property, as one would just want to walk in or around just for fun from time to time.

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Car Tire Punctured much lately

I believe it's at least the third time in this past year, yesterday (Thursday) when Nadia said the tire got punctured again, this time, on the new back tire, driver's side. I last parked the car in the free parking lot of the train station, close to the Station Bay construction, which is a suspect. The one before this was the back tire on the passenger's side, and we drove it flat for so long that it exploded during examination (pumping) by Costco service guy, a good excuse for him to work overtime just to give us a new tire, gave him like $20 as a tip.

After complaining on South Amboy Facebook, someone advised that not keeping the tires well pumped is also prone to nail punctures.

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Vocab: Perfunctory

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perfunctory

Pronunciation:
perfuhngk-tuh-ree

Definition:

curt

As used in a sentence:

The bored hostess gave us a perfunctory hello at dinner.

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Spaghetti Done Right

Quick and easy, using the Anova's posted recipe by Emily Farris. I came across this one when trying to use the Anova cooking device gifted by Tracy.

This is so far the quickest way to whoop up a very tasty spaghetti meal.

Here's a copy of it:

Ingredients for 6

  • 1 1/2 pounds jumbo shrimp (16-20 per pound), peeled and deveined
  • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter, diced
  • Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper
  • 1 pound dried spaghetti
  • 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice
  • 1 tablespoon lemon zest
  • 1/2 teaspoon red pepper flakes
  • 2 tablespoons minced chives

Directions

  •  Step 1 Set the Anova Sous Vide Precision Cooker to 135°F (57.2°C). I later just skipped this step, not using the Anova cooker, and use regular cooking instead in a pot.
  • Step 2 Combine the shrimp and butter in a large zipper lock or vacuum seal bag. Seal the bag using the water immersion technique or a vacuum sealer on the dry setting. Place the bag in the water bath and set the timer for 30 minutes.

Finishing Steps

  • Step 0 When the timer goes off, remove the bag from the water bath and set aside.
  • Step 1 Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add the spaghetti and cook until al dente, about for 10 minutes. Reserve about 1/2 cup pasta cooking water and drain spaghetti. Return spaghetti to the pot.
  • Step 2 Add the lemon juice, lemon zest, red pepper flakes, shrimp and butter from the bag, and pasta cooking liquid. Set pot over medium heat and cook, stirring constantly, until sauce thickens.
  • Step 3 Remove from the heat and stir in the chives. Season to taste with salt and pepper and serve.
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Thoughts

Cleaning up my desk, came across a small poster about Delaware Water Gap hiking. We did Mt. Minsi last year, it's on Pennsylvania side. Mt. Tammany, the opposite mount across the Delaware River, is on NJ side and probably twice as hard/long as Minsi, from what I heard.

Every now and then we'll get this card in the mail addressed to "Resident", by Lupus foundation (888-445-8787). They provide free donation pick-up for clothing, shoes and household items at the indicated date on the card. But probably can arrange for any day by calling them. Well, it's free donation pick up, good enough.

For some reason we receive periodic medical journals called "Hackensack Meridian Health" addressed to "Our Friends at..." I guess I'll start reading it to learn something. So in this Winter 2022 edition, I read their innovation article on treating heart disease. Heart disease is caused by clogged arteries with fatty plaque and calcium deposit in the artery wall over time. Two types of conventional treatments are: Angioplasty (using balloon), Atherectomy (scraping the artery wall). The new innovation: Intravascular Lithotripsy (IVL) uses sonic pressure waves to break up the calcium, then using Angioplasty to push away the fatty plague now that there's no calcium blocking it. It's amazing how catheter can be inserted into the heart artery through patient's arm or leg. Finally a stent (metal tubing) is inserted in place of the catheter, to keep the vessel open. I'll keep this magazine as there's more to read in another time. In addition to the HMH journal, I also receive Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital journals, addressed to "Current Resident".

Optimum Online really tries to get our business, now offering 300 Mbps internet for $29.99. 1-866-213-2820, and even offering a $200 visa prepaid card. This is like the 5th time I received such offer already. When they had only 200 Mbps with the same price, I was already considering and tried to bargain for 300 Mbps, because our Verizon is now $39.99 for 300 Mbps since last year (was only 100/100 = 100 Mbps with the same price before that). But at the time Optimum wasn't willing to match Verizon's offer plus they have more negative reviews than Verizon, so I wasn't going to pay attention to it, even when they sent out an old guy salesman to do their bidding at our door last year. However, I'll keep an eye out on this, in case Verizon starts ripping us out. It was a bargaining game between Verizon & Optimum back when we were in Brooklyn and they were really flexible in customizing the pricing with us to compete for our business, but not so much so when we moved to Jersey.

Need to find replacement for slightly broken drawer in the fridge (Model Number: GSH25JSDBSS. Drawer: Fresh Produce Drawer (2nd from bottom in fridge area), manufacture number: WR32X10834. Found it via Partselect.

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Vocab: colloquial

Informal language characteristics.

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